Message: “No More Excuses – Trusting God’s Call” from Joe Summers

HOW TO ATTRACT AND BE THE RIGHT PARTNER (FOR SINGLES AND MARRIED) Proverbs 18:22; Gen. 2:20-24 1) Be the right person. Work on yourself: Character, emotions, physically& spiritually. Get rid of your weaknesses like anger, laziness, selfishness, lack of care for others, critical spirit, over dependence on others, emotional scars from past hurts and abuse, spiritual babyhood. It is important that to you are whole and thoroughly healthy in soul and spirit. It takes two whole persons to unite and have a good marriage. I'm not saying be perfect, but be whole. Be able to have a solid and sweet single life. #The quality of your single life is a precursor to the quality of your marriage. # The level of your quality determines who you attract. Healthy attracts healthy. Sick attracts abuser and cheat. 2) Be committed to your assignment and heart's passions. Your right spouse will usually be found while you work on your God-given duty. Not usually outside of it. Somewhere in the course of your assignment is your provision of a partner or spouse. E.g. your group/department in church, passion for charity, business etc. 3) Trust God for favour. It takes God's favour not so much your labour. Remember that Adam was put to sleep here. Go to sleep technically - let God guide you. Don't be worried. 4) Pray about your marital future regularly. Try to have a set day of the week to pray and fast (if possible) about your marital future. Satan hates godly homes. So, he will try everything possible to thwart God's plans here. Pray for favour. Pray against satanic hindrances, against bad family Marita patterns etc. 5) Be in the fellowship of believers. How will you find a godly man or woman when you always among unbelievers or unseriouus immature Christians. Don't ever think of marrying an unbeliever to convert them. Don't be unequally yoked to an unbeliever. 2 Corinthians 6:14. People say that half bread is better than non. Not in marriage - it's better not to marry if you're not convinced of the person's salvation. Salvation and a walk with God engender the fear of God. The core and most important characteristic of anyone you marry is the fear of God. 6) Grow spiritually. Grow in spiritual discernment. How does God speak to you? Practice it and get mature at getting spiritual direction. God still speaks. There's no need for trial and error. 7) Destroy your idols. Those images you have of an Ideal spouse, cast them down. Desire quality, excellence and godliness, but leave the rest to God. He may not be as rich as you want. She may not be the beauty Queen you romanticise on TV. Be careful of your heart's idols. 8) Don't go it alone. Involve your godly mentor/pastor. Involve your parents. They have discernment that's been tested over time. So they can help confirm your choice of spouse. 9) Understudy a godly successful marriage. If the couple teach on marriage, better deal. Your learning curve Will be faster. 10) Read, study understand what makes men unique and what makes women unique. Don't just wonder in dismay, why are women so emotional? Or Why do men love sports so much? 11) Is the man a leader? Can he take decisions by himself? How does he react when problems manifest? Do you find yourself consoling him and having to pamper him like a mother all the time? Is he grown up in character? Is he an example of purity to you? Or does he make you guilty of preserving your purity until marriage?

Scripture References: Proverbs 18:22

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